Saturday, January 22, 2011

40..............80...Sharing my heart...

IT HIT ME a couple of months ago.
While I was shopping on BLACK FRIDAY with T.

It's been stalking me..
I've been obsessing...
I've dreamt of these two numbers.. 40......80...

When this little doll is the age I am now, I WILL BE 80!!!

Will I be able to go shopping with my baby girl on BLACK FRIDAY when I'm 80? HIGHLY DOUBT IT.

Will I even still be alive?
Why am I obsessing and worrying about this?

I don't feel 40 (today anyway).

You can look at it two ways...I guess this has been a real wake up call from the guy upstairs. Or the guy downstairs?

I take comfort in God's word...

"Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life ?" Matthew 6:27

The answer to that is NO YOU CAN'T!  Why am I worrying about this stuff?

Because I WANT TO BE FAIR TO BABY BAKERS! I DON'T WANT TO BE a "no fun mom" when she is 40! But I know MY GOD has this one so I MUST STOP OBSESSING. I just had to get it off my chest.

Here are 2 more numbers for you...
40........90. That's how old THE CAPTAIN will be when she's 40!

I KNOW-STOP OBSESSING RIGHT? Enjoy each day!! And that is my prayer, that these dumb numbers will escape my mind!

"Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." Matthew 6:34

So what are your thoughts?  HOW OLD IS TOO OLD TO HAVE A BABY? 

CELEBS like JOHN TRAVOLTA & Kelly Preston, TONY RANDLE, Michael Douglas, Celine Dion etc... are all having/had babies in their 40's, 50's, 60's and even 70's. IS THIS FAIR TO THEIR KIDS??

My good friend recently reminded me of this pregnancy has taken a toll on her and also did on my body this last time. Interestingly enough, ALSO MY BLOG "THEME VERSE."

"Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth." Psalm 127:4


I think I am no longer a "YOUTH". When did I stop being one though? It happened so fast that I am NOW MIDDLE AGED! WOW!

Can't wait to hear all your thoughts on this one!
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Room for More said...

I have definitely struggled with this too. I had Pookie when I was 40, DH was 47. I am PG through embryo adoption and am 43, DH 50. Have DH and I thought about this (even very recently), Yes! Have we considered the verse that includes "in his youth", Yes! When we think of possibly "not" getting to see them get married, have children, etc. I want to say I am thinking of them, but I am truly thinking of me and how I don't want to miss out on everything. I also think that the enemy can use these thoughts to distract us from our focus.
My mother died at age 32 when I was 11yo of cancer. My father never remarried. I did not have my mother for many milestones. If she "knew" she was going to die before she got PG with me, would that have changed whether or not she had me? I believe absolutely not.
As Christians, we believe that we are to leave our family size up to the Lord. I didn't "make" this adoption happen. We, in our hearts wanted to adopt. We made ourselves available and He provided the little ones. I do not know how this pregnancy will turn out, I pray God's plan is for us to raise more children to serve and love Him.
My mother's legacy lives on in me. Yes, she only had 11 years to build into me her morals, values, and show enormous amounts of love, but she used each day she had to do just that. I have her with me here on this earth as I live and train my little ones.
I am honored that God desires for me to be a mother to little ones in my 40s. : )

"Are These Kids All Yours?" said...

I think of all of my children.....and as I am not quite age 40 (37). I think of it differently- my children would not have a home otherwise. Is it better to give them a home for as long as I am alive? YES!!!!

Also...I think of things like- not that anyone wants this to happen, but we could all fret over car accidents, cancer, or other health issues that can kill you anytime. Then no one would be a parent.

Makes me laugh because most people would say it was unfair just to adopt more than 2 children. he he he - silly to me, but they say well- is it fair because they don't have your undivided attention 24/7, or they won't have the best of the best of everything, or have their college tuition paid in full etc. If those are the standards "the world" sets- then that is what you go by.

But why is it that women are able to get pregnant later in life if it were a bad thing? God designed our bodies.

Well....just thinking outloud really.

I think if you love your children and obviously we both do with all of your heart- then it is GOOD!! :) Just my opinion :)

Nelly said...

Happy Birthday I just turned 41

The Write Life said...

I think youth in God's eyes is different than it is in ours. We know God sees time differently than us, too!

God blessed Sarah with a pregnancy at an age that would sound impossibly old to most mothers!

As someone said, none of us know how long we'll be here to parent our kids no matter how old we are.

I say if He blesses us with more babies, we just go with it an love them! Everyone has to judge where they are energy-wise, age-wise, health-wise and financially (though God had blessed us financially with each baby we've been blessed with. He's never let us down, though we've had rough times here and there)

Interesting I think of often.


Laura said...

There is NO way you are 40. I don't believe it for a second. You look AWESOME, girl!! I'd have guessed 30 for sure. So in love with your little girl and wishing you lived closer so baby bakers could meet baby k. Give that little girl a squeeze from me and Makenna - Laura

Farm Chick said...

Love the pic of you and baby girl! So cute.

Meditate on those scriptures you posted. God has it all under control.

Also, I find this verse helpful when thoughts "stalk me".

Philippians 4:8
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things

P.S. How stinkin' cool that the Duggars are coming to KS. Wowsa that would be fun!

Ana-Lou said...

Sweet Jen, We conceived & recieved at an even older age. I don't feel "OLD" but very BLESSED to know he KNOWS perfectly why we are put together for HIS GLORY!!!

Keep Shining Girl! I LOVE those wonderful "40's" absolutely LOVE THEM!!!!!!! Because 40's where life began with many of those He chose to make a difference for HISTORY . . . . . "S H I N E" and "keep shining for Jesus". For I have always said this each morning all my girls growing up days and still do.

You and the Captain Have just BEGUN!

Kelly said...

Ok now. What are you trying to say? 40 is old, too old for a baby? Wait a min. I am 40, with two babies. Am I old? oh no. Please don't tell me that. LOL Just kidding.

I know what you mean. I did think about being 57 when Britton graduates high school and I do think after chasing my two babies all day that I am too old for this but I haven't really thought about the 40/80 thing.

You never know, having our children later may just keep us young and we might be out there shopping our legs off on Black Friday but...40 years from now all shopping will probably on-line and no malls will exist anyway. :)

Just enjoy that beauty and leave all the rest alone.

Besides, I am counting on the Lord coming back for us before we are 80. :)

Ashley said...

I don't think age matters much. It's more making the most of the time you have and what you impart to your children. None of us knows how much time we have left here on Earth. Enjoy every moment!

Immeasurably More Mama said...

Oh my goodness, Jenn! I never updated your blog on my blogroll and I just thought you quit blogging! No worries about your mom was 42 when she gave birth to my youngest sister. You've also given your sweet girl the blessing of LOTS of siblings to be there for her as she gets older. :)

Renata said...

Hi Jen
I've also wondered this - how old is too old to have a child? Is it fair on the child that they have old parents? As we contemplate having more children, I guess these thoughts have popped into my head also. My mother had my sister at 36 - my sister is now 19 & she & Mum get along fine. Mum is still the mother to J as she was to me (she had me at 22). In fact we often look at my parents & compare them to our friends parents & we think that having children keeps people young. Certainly my mum seems a lot younger than most women her age & I do think it is because she is still going through the mothering. So instead of worrying, just think - this precious little girl you have there is going to keep you young!
Enjoy your beautiful baby

MyLinda said...

I've been thinking a lot about the age thing lately too as we wait for our next adoption. I'm 37 (hubby is 47) and I keep wondering if it's fair/wise for us to consider an infant (alone or as part of a sib set). But as I think about it I realize that no matter our age or the child/ren's age that we adopt it will be a blessing to all of us!

Twinside Out said...

Love, love, LOVE the sweet picture of you and your baby girl! I've wondered how you were doing, and I'm so glad to have found this link on your old blog. I wasn't able to be online much when I was on bedrest and am only now getting back into the swing of things. Looking forward to reading more about what you and your precious family have been up to!!
--Jennifer (formerly of Hope Endures)

mayasmommy said...

Jen, If it makes you feel better I'm 47 & only for a few more weeks. I always said I would give myself until I was 42 to have a child just because that was the age my mom was when she had my little sister. Then after losing 4 babies through invitro Maya became ours just 2 days before turning 43 & that was all Gods doing.
I'm still trying to decide who is more blessed...her because she will not have to fend for herself on the streets in Guatemala at 5 years old (yes, this is happening every day there)or us because our arms are full? I shudder to think what would have happened to her or us had we not been blessed with her.
I knew the moment they placed her in my arms for the first time that this was all Gods perfect timing and that He was in control. And if He trust Andy & I enough to love and raise this child then I will put my trust in Him for the rest.
When life gets out of sorts I turn to this bible verse...Faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. Hebrews 11:1 You are awesome for all that you have done!!!
God Bless!

Angelwingsbaby said...

Hey girl just checking in on you.I have been able to get feeds from this blog since you switched, so please don't think I have been ignoring you :-) I just forget that I have to find you.Miss hearing from.And yes I too run the numbers through my head and then quickly remind myself to stop doing that and just enjoy what God has given me. But it can be really hard not to think about since I am not done having babies yet. I am moving forward with my next FET here soon my consult is in a week.Well hope to talk to you soon, ((HUGS)) -Megan