Friday, February 18, 2011

Should we go to PRISON???

I know when I see this stamped on an envelope..
One of our kids birth moms is back in prison...
It's sad, truly sad..

This was the letter written and request made to The Captain and I....


I have had SO MANY EMOTIONS going through my head..
It is VERY difficult to know what is best for these two...

They have not seen her in over 4 years since Bit But's birth...

Will it be detrimental for them TO see her?
Will it be detrimental for them NOT to see her?
WWJD?

I know as an adopted child myself, I wanted more than anything to see what my birth mother looked like...

We have taken Bean, T, and WyWy to the same prison to visit their mother. It really is not that scary. Its like a big cafeteria with tables, vending machines and games.

One of my fears is that if we don't take them to see her now, while she is locked up, they may never see her alive again and then I may never forgive myself. I know the reality is she will probably get out and go right back to using meth and once again disappear into the abyss.

We know that OUR GOD will not steer us in the wrong direction and we must turn to him for the right answer, its a tough one...

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14 comments:

Christina said...

That is a tough call. I know you'll the right thing for your family. I wish I had some great words of advice!

Jenifer said...

Jennifer, that is a big decision. I will keep you in prayer as God leads you. Blessings

Jen: Proud Mom of 7 Adopted Miracle Blessings said...

I'm in tears- I love your kids so much!!! I know God will lead you... I think you already answered your own question in your post- no regrets, sweetie... I love you and your kids so much!!! Hugs!!!

Ana-Lou said...

It is tough Jennifer, and a huge decision. You now know both sides. Open arms for the precious babe in your arms and to be the child of adoption. I will bathe you and the entire situation in Jehovah Jirah's care. He will and is leading you and The Captian.

All I can think about it the word being LIVING and ACTIVE! Matthew 25:35-ff comes to mind . . .(My paraphrase) "When I was hungry, you fed me. When I was thirsty, you gave me a drink. When I was naked, you clothed me. when I was in prison, you visited me. . . "

Pyratess said...

I will be praying for your family and God's direction.

"Are These Kids All Yours?" said...

That is hard. Having had this come up for us at times....I would say if you feel comfortable do it. Take pictures.....because you don't want to regret not doing it.

I too think that my children may not get to see their birth family when they are older....because.....same reasons......Breaks my heart.

PRAYING for your decision....it is tough!

Twinside Out said...

Such a difficult decision. You are absolutely right that God will not steer you in the wrong way! He gives us wisdom when we ask, and generously so...praying that He will make the path clear before you.

bearhugs2u said...

take them. I am so glad you saw your birth mother, even though I AM your mother. So many "wonders" are over by this happening. I am sure God will be in your decision and that His will will be done. We love all of you with grateful hearts. God is SO GOOD!

Debi said...

Wow...tough call. We are just in the process of adopting our first child through foster care and anticipate issues like this in the future.

The Anglin Family said...

Saying a prayer for you. That's a big decision. Big hugs! What a sweet picture of those two.:))

MyLinda said...

What do the kids say? I think if this question came up with Lexy right now (she's almost 7 and hasn't seen bm since she was 2) I would ask what she thought about it and respect her wishes.

Renata said...

That sure is a tough decision. I'm sure God will guide you in the right thing to do. Praying for you...
Blessings
Renata:)

Mama in Uganda said...

We had this same type of "issue" come up this past week. Our son's uncle, his prior guardian, wanted to come and visit from the village. My first reaction was NO, as he was very cruel to our son. But, we explained to Elijah that we were his parents and that we would not let anything bad happen to him. We also shared with him how he could show the love of Jesus to his uncle. All went well, despite the fact that the uncle is not a very pleasant man {too much alcohol and war}.

The Lord will show you. trust Him.

Summer

Angela :-) said...

I, too, think you answered your own question in your post. What reason would there be NOT to take them?

Angela :-)